It’s been a very exciting and interesting first week of blogging. There has been so much lovely and supportive feedback that it leaves me feeling humbled and flattered. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. And thank you for actually taking the time to read my words. It means the world to me.
Having the opportunity to share our world in this short week of posts, I’ve found people feel compelled to also share with me, which I just love. Hearing about other thoughts and experiences makes the world feel a little smaller and more connected. That connection is one of the reasons why I reach out and share. So, thank you. And keep it coming!
To those who have expressed joy in reading thus far, I have also heard the same phrase repeated over and over in request for future posts and that is: Keep it real! I get it. In the world of Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and all other social media, the internet has a way of projecting this picture perfect view of our lives that we all know is not the whole truth. Of course that one beautiful shot of your kids playing in perfect harmony did really happen, but how many people are willing to post the next shot in which it all fell apart and tears ensued. Come on, you know it happened. I think that showing the good with the bad makes everyone feel a little more normal and comforted in knowing that there is moments of difficulty for everyone.
Before: Cute Mama & Little One selfie
One of the first blogs I ever started following on a consistent basis was Amber Dusick’s Illustrated with Crappy Pictures. I remember falling in love with her after reading her very first post because she was so honest and real that I found it refreshing, hilarious, and comforting. This woman is the epitome of keeping it real and I read her again and again because hearing about all the ups and downs in her life is reassuring that I am not alone in this world of parenting, marriage, and life. So I’m going to do my best to keep it real and not just share the picture perfect moments with you. Because how can we connect on just that?
So today’s lovely moments included: Big Brother being brought to soulful tears followed by storming off and slamming his bedroom door (hello teenage foreshadowing) because I asked him to draw on the back of a piece of paper before giving him a new “clean” piece of paper. (We have a lot of melt downs over the particular-ness of items such as paper being clean & unwrinkled or crust being cut just right) Little One started my day running around the house screaming around 5:45 am because his overnight diaper needed changing, his number one least favorite activity. Not wanting his screams to wake up the other sleeping members of the house, I resort to letting him look at pictures on my phone. (Enter screen time guilt) During mid poop wipe, I realize he’s found a way to delete the pictures that I haven’t yet saved and so I quickly take the phone back and more screaming and thrashing around continues until I can finally finish the task and exhale.
Good Morning, Mama. Let’s do this.
These are relatively minor, every day occurrences in my house. As they are in everyone’s house. But with this resounding request to keep it real, I also want to offer a quote that my yoga teacher shared with me this week that has really resonated with me. It has made me stop and think about how I can take the “real” and frame it in a way that feels less chaotic. Because even though the real is challenging and at times stressful, I am working hard to keep a peace about me that allows the good and the bad to roll in and out without rocking my boat too much. Note I said working on this. Far from being at a point where this is perfected. Because there is no perfect.
“The peace that we’re looking for is not peace that crumbles as soon as there is difficulty or chaos. Whether we’re seeking inner peace or global peace or a combination of the two, the way to experience it is to build on the foundation of unconditional openness to all that arises. Peace isn’t an experience free of challenges, free of rough and smooth, it’s an experience that’s expansive enough to include all that arises without feeling threatened.”
– Pema Chödrön from Taking the Leap